The question that haunts parents nationwide:
How do you introduce the first child to the new sibling in a way to foster love and not resentment???
We tried a few 'tricks' folks had recommended and I think it worked well enough. Along with reading lots of family/new baby books prior to N's birth, L spent more and more quality time with his daddy and we talked about the baby needing mommy a lot. We planned the initial meet and greet to include: present for baby from L, present for L from baby, first moments of visual contact with baby lying on the bed in neutral territory.
It went off without a hitch and I'd say there is minimal emotional scarring involved (just kidding!) L has been very accepting of mommy taking care of the baby, and he has be especially connected with his daddy. I have been very conscientious to give L eye contact and lots of hugs and kisses as well as keeping the standard of obedience at the same level in an attempt to head off any boundary pushing.
We are extremely blessed that N is a 'good' baby... i.e. he hardly cries at all! This is making it much easier on mom and dad. I am realizing though that my diet needs to reflect the new baby tummy preferences so that we avoid the colicky nights some experience. No more bell peppers and limited dairy! It's worth the sacrifice. He's worth the sacrifice.. if you hadn't heard, N is AWESOME!
Here you see L meeting N for the first time!